April 16, 2005

The A-Word

Abortion: It raises the hackles of people on all sides of the debate. For that reason I do not discuss it on my site, beyond noting occasionally that I am pro-choice.

I've probably participated in, or been witness to, as many ugly arguments on the subject as you have. It was a facet of the Terri Schiavo debate that I deliberately avoided: One, I did not and do not think the two issues are directly related. Two, I thought tensions ran high enough just on the specific case of Schiavo's fate alone without bringing abortion into it, and yes, of course I'm including my own cute brand of tension and hysteria in that.

There is a woman out there who does have the courage to discuss the A-word, as she recently did before the Texas State Legislature, in a graceful and heartfelt way that I do not. Her name is Julia, and this is her story.

Read it--whatever side you're on.

Posted by Ilyka at April 16, 2005 10:05 PM in hell is other people

My God...and her comment section is so civil. No one is screaming or preaching or condemning. No bricks are being thrown. Just people for the first time understanding that what may appear to be the easiest of decisions is an emotional hell that scars for life.

Posted by: Helen at April 17, 2005 07:43 AM

and her comment section is so civil


I admire the infertility bloggers (for lack of a better label) for their ability to create a true community that (a) doesn't make me retch to the tune of "Kumbaya" (you know? Like TOO "let's have a group hug again, y'all?"), yet (b) doesn't escalate every disagreement to "I know you are, but what am I?"

And then there is the little tiny bit about how an undue proportion of these women write like a dream, etc. Details, details.

But seriously, I swear, she just made me proud to be a Texan, for once.

Posted by: ilyka at April 17, 2005 08:22 AM

I was raised Catholic and was taught that abortion is murder. I've since changed my mind about that. While I was going through this transition, though, I used to think, well, if you're going to have an abortion, the state should be allowed to require you to do it in the first trimester. Reading this story and others like it, I've learned that the vast majority of women who abort late term do it for serious medical reasons.

Every couple of years, Congress enacts a partial birth abortion law. The Supreme Court has struck them down at least once because the law didn't have a medical necessity component to it. The right was of course livid: "Where in the Constitution does it say you have a right . . ." blah, blah. Or, more sophisticatedly, "The Court is thwarting the will of the people . . ." blah, blah, blah.

I guess I've become more liberal as I've grown older, because these are the arguments I used to make. Majorities are great, but with this (in the case of this woman having to make a horrible decision about her unborn son) and other things (such as the right to engage in consensual sexual activities, Lawrence v. Texas), I'm glad we have courts to spare us from the busybodies.

Posted by: Mark at April 17, 2005 08:56 AM

i too avoid this topic in polite conversation, which (for me anyway) blogging is. but from time to time i do note that i respect and admire the women i know, who are raising their mistakes. looking at what they have overcome, i say a prayer of thanks that i have not been so tested in my life, yet.

Posted by: rammer at April 18, 2005 04:29 AM

I know a woman who found out around 20 weeks that she had a baby with deformities that were "incompatible" with life. She choose to keep the baby with her as long as she could. She could love it while it was inside her. She knew it would most likely die before, or during, birth. Not to be argumentative, just bringing up a similar situation, with a different outcome.

Posted by: carin at April 18, 2005 09:11 PM